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Archives for November 2009

A full helping of turkey, mashed potatoes, and racism

Posted by Katie C on November 27, 2009

Of all the freshly minted memories from Thanksgiving ‘09 - the Pumpkin Pie of Epic Deliciousness, the rad day trip to San Francisco, wacky family overload - the award for most memorable moment goes to the Unremaked Upon But Blatantly Racist Comment (UUB). It snuck up on us, this BRC, in the middle of a delightful conversation about art and travel. My uncle’s mother-in-law (of three years), telling us of the time she spent in Italy, remarked that “the Italians are very much like the Mexicans, but more intelligent, obviously.”

While you gasp and reel (as I did), let me fill in some background.

I imagine there are many families like mine: large, with many confusing additions to the table (i.e. the incredibly lovely woman my aunt’s jerk of an ex-husband married after my aunt divorced him), noisy, opinionated and very white, by which I mean to say, unaware of their whiteness. Oppression theory, or even the word “oppression”, is never kicked around the dinner table. The lengthy list entitled “Things of which we do not speak” includes: mental illness, family tragedy, sex (gay, straight, or otherwise), politics, religion and race. Direct, public conflict doesn’t exist in my family. It’s more of a passive-aggressive, private affair that becomes public when grievances are aired after the fact.

With all that in mind, I probably don’t have to tell you that no one in the room questioned the BRC (especially since I labeled it a UUB and you, as a fabulous PWCL supporter/fan/admirer, understand and love the glory of a context clue). The BRC bomb was dropped in the middle of her story and no one gasped, vomited, cried or otherwise challenged what she said. The story segued seamlessly into the next family yarn and the moment passed.

The woman who busted out the BRC is, as I mentioned, my uncle’s mother-in-law. Her daughter and my uncle have been married for a little over three years now, and yesterday’s dinner was only the second time I’d met her. I rarely have the opportunity to see my family and I sincerely doubt I’ll see this woman before three more years have passed or develop any kind of meaningful relationship with her. I’ve only recently begun negotiating the rocky territory of interrupting oppression within my own immediate family and I have a difficult time imagining myself extending that to this grey area of relationships. This woman isn’t exactly a stranger and while I do have something at stake here (familial peace), I don’t have anything invested in our relationship in particular.

Tenuous, ambiguous relationships aside, what I am invested in is challenging ‘ambient’ racism, i.e., explicitly racist statements that, when unchallenged, become absorbed into the overall atmosphere. I’m invested in questioning statements like the UUB and in letting the folks around me know that I will not be complicit in their racism. In other words, my challenge is learning how to balance my political commitments with my desire to be an accepted part of my family. I already struggle with feeling separate, as a result of geographic and philosophical distance.

Have you had a similar experience? How do you deal with oppressive statements coming from the mouths of distant relatives? Post your stories and suggestions in the comments. With your help I’ll be ready by next Thanksgiving.

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Sarah Palin: please don’t feed the dragon

Posted by Abigail B. on November 24, 2009

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Regardless of how busy you’ve been in the last week its doubtful that you haven’t heard about Sarah Palin new book “Going Rogue”. The amount of press that the Palin machine has been pumping out resembles Hollywood’s promotion of the newest Twilight movie. Usually it would be bad form to compare a politician’s memoir with a sexy teenage vampire series but in this case I feel comfortable with the comparison.

It seems that Sarah Palin has become a franchise for the far rights incendiary politics. Palin brings with her the type of controversy that news networks dream of, her catchy one-liners seem to have been scripted for the tempo of the six O’clock news, her supporters give candid interviews with little prompting and, lets not forget, she winks.

The reviews of Palin’s book fall largely across partisan lines, some fact checking reports have given her a failing grade but I think it is important to remember that Palin does not need credibility to have a powerful impact on mainstream political discourse. Palin exists as apart of a network of hard right icons who have gained celebrity among some of the more reactionary factions including white supremacist and their allies. It is unlikely that any amount of fact checking will rattle Sarah Palin base.

For those of us who have been following Sarah Palin’s career it has become increasingly clear that Mrs. Palin will not suddenly transform into the conservative policy wonk that Rush Limbaugh seems to think she is, nor will she start to make sense or offer any real substantial input during her many nationally televised interviews because that is not her purpose. Palin operates as a mechanism to divert and refract the male privilege and white supremacist policies that the far right traditionally delivers. In ths role Mrs. Palin has found her niche.

If Palin is successful in her role then her presence could turn out to be much more lethal to the left wing than anyone anticipates. Like it or not Sarah Palin has been incredibly skillful in her maneuvering as a women in the male dominated right wing. Palin has made her way through the national spotlight as both a hockey mom and a good old boy. Perhaps one of her greatest accomplishment to date is how she has managed to point her finger on the “liberal media” and blame the left for the sexism she has suffered.  Incredibly she has been able to mobilize these sexist attacks on her as a way to get around the large craters in her credentials. And, amazingly, she has done all this without overtly identifying as a feminist.  Its a strange twisty road that leaves most of us baffled at how we’ve ended up almost wanting to defend Palin against misogyny that has been launched around her.  What is important to remember is that Palin is not the flippant character she plays on TV, she is an anti-choice, anti-woman politician who has harnessed the nations attention.

The question going forward is what is the appropriate response to a force that is so logically irreverent? The impulse to disregard her is just as strong as the impulse to go on the attack. Both approaches only seem to feed the dragon.

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PWCL in the Willamette Week Give!Guide

Posted by Kelsey P. on November 16, 2009

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Lucky us! We’ve been picked for the Willamette Week’s Give!Guide for the second time in a row. Every year, the Give!Guide gives local non-profits exposure in a colorful, fun booklet. The opportunity really is golden - it allows us to communicate our mission to the larger public while also asking the community to help support us as we answer thousands of calls every year.

You can help out. First, follow PWCL on Facebook. Every week, we’ll be giving away goodies from our generous local business partners to those who give to PWCL in the G!G during a specific time period. Next, give! Go to the Give!Guide website and make a gift to Portland Women’s Crisis Line.

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